Jealousy is one of the worst feelings in the world when you are in a relationship.  There is a constant voice in your head that tells you “Hey, he could be with her right now” and it hurts.  The worst part is that all of these thoughts are a pure waste of your energy.  For the most part, there is a reason why your boyfriend’s ex- girlfriend is his ex.  However, there are many leading ladies out there that are letting jealousy get the best of them.  Today, let’s talk about how to beat jealousy before it beats you.

A little bit of jealousy can be cute in a relationship but it can be a slippery slope.  What was once a puppy dog face has now turned into a massive fight every time his phone rings.  There is nothing more unattractive for a guy than a woman who just oozes with jealousy.  You can be sure that your jealousy will lead you to Splitsville.  So what can you do to get over your jealousy?  Here are a few tips:

• Learn to be positive.  Instead of focusing on what you believe to be your shortcomings embrace what is great about you.  There is a reason why your boyfriend loves you, focus on this not on all of the reasons why he might be interested in someone else.
• Occupy yourself.  Many women become jealous because they have nothing else to do.  Instead of sitting in your room thinking about where he is and what he is doing, go to the gym, join a class or go out with a new group of friends.  The more you concentrate on your life, the less you will concentrate on the imaginary life that you have created for your boyfriend.
• Talk About It.  Talk to your friends and especially to guys.  Go to a bartender.  Lay out the case for them as objectively as possible and truthfully.  See what their opinion is and you may just find out that you are overreacting.
• Set Up Rules.  Sometimes it is easy for a woman to get caught up in a fit of jealousy.  Let your boyfriend know that you aren’t interested in knowing that he ran into his ex girlfriend at the grocery store.  It is useless information that doesn’t make you feel better and if nothing happened then it really is not worth mentioning.

Jealousy normally starts from within.  If you are not happy with yourself or fearful that he may leave you, those claws of jealousy start to come out and can rip your relationship apart.  You have to learn to accept yourself and be happy with what you bring to the table.  We all have our defects and no one is perfect.  There is no point in focusing on what makes you imperfect but rather on what you makes you a good person.

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Water truly is the essence of life.  This is why water seems to be the only reliable fountain of youth because of all of the health benefits that are associated with its consumption.  Approximately two thirds of the human body is water and in order for the body to function properly, water is absolutely necessary.  There are various health benefits that are inextricably linked to drinking water which will help you to improve various aspects of your daily life by consuming water regularly.  About eighty percent of Americans suffer from a small degree of dehydration from the lack of water consumption.  With the various diet drinks, coffee, tea and sports drinks, the caffeine in these products often takes a harsh toll on the human body.  Therefore, by drinking water you will no longer be dehydrated and tired.  You will be able to run around to all of your different glamour model shoots without skipping a beat while drinking water.

To give you an idea about how important water is for the human body, here are a few facts and figures: 22% of bone is made from water, the brain is made up of 74 percent of water, 75 percent of our muscles is made of water and our blood with the highest percentage is 83% made of water.  If your body is dehydrated, you will be unable to digest food properly, workout or even think clearly.  Even more so, daily activities will become a burden while you are dehydrated such as getting out of bed in the morning making you late to important meetings.  Water helps to supply our daily energy level which is reduced when there are not sufficient amounts of water being consumed.

Other health benefits that consuming water produce for a glamour model include the following: higher levels of daily energy, the removal of harmful toxins and waste products from the body, maintaining and losing weight, a faster metabolism to lose weight, healthier and clearer looking skin, radiant hair and improved mental and physical performance.  These health benefits are the quintessence of what people search for when they speak about the fountain of youth.  Plus the added levels of energy that you will have, allow you to work out more in which performing daily exercise has been proven to turn back the hands of time for the body.  As you can see, drinking water will not only help to enhance your external appearance, it will also help to energize you during your hectic schedule while keeping you healthy.  Water truly is the core supplement for the fountain of youth.

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The characteristic that people notice first about your appearance is your smile.  Therefore, whether you are going on a big photo shoot or just looking for some attention from the opposite sex, your smile is the bait that reels people to you.  It is amazing because even if you have a flaw such as a pimple or small scar, people will completely overlook it if you have a fantastic smile.  The problem occurs when your smile is not too flash worthy.  Nevertheless, this does not mean to give up your dreams of becoming a famous glamour model or married, it means you have to look at your options.

With the advancement of technology, cosmetic dental surgery has broken down barriers and has made dental surgery affordable and painless.  The question is, do you need it?  If you are looking to whiten your smile in order to catch a few more fish cosmetic dental surgery will not help.   In this case you can use other services such as teeth whitening and bleaching.  But if you are looking fix missing teeth, crooked teeth, chipped teeth or what is known as a “gummy smile” then cosmetic dental surgery will certainly help you.

Overtime, your teeth begin to weaken and if you were plagued with a serious disease as a child, your teeth may not be very healthy leading them to become weaker at an earlier age with the possibility of falling out or needing to be taken out.  Obviously, you will never get a great glamour model gig with missing teeth so your best option is dental implants.  These implants look 100% natural and are extremely durable without the fear of having future cavities.  Likewise, if your teeth are uneven you may consider dental implants.  If you have minor imperfections such as crooked or chipped teeth, you may want to consider porcelain veneers.  These veneers are durable and slip right onto your tooth fixing any imperfection.  They will also match your tooth color identically so that no one will notice that your smile is not all natural.

A problem that many people in America suffer from is a “gummy smile”.  This type of smile has been dubbed as a gummy smile because at first glance all one sees are your gums rather than your pearly whites.  Have no fear because cosmetic dental surgery is here to relieve you of this smile.  Through the use of gum contouring, your oral surgeon will be able to delicately remove the excess gum from your mouth with a special laser which is painless and causes very little bleeding as it seals blood vessels during the surgery.  The recovery time is very quick and the process is permanent so you will never have to worry about your gummy smile ever again.

If you suffer from one of these imperfections in your smile, you may want to consider cosmetic dental surgery as it will be able to “naturally” mask any one of your oral imperfections.

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One recent overexposure of senior dating has been the popularity of cougars.  The phenomena of cougars is quite interesting as it is the modern feminist movement in dating.  Society has accepted sugar daddies, older men who date younger women, but society is still unsure of the public opinion regarding cougars.  On the one hand, cougars make older women feel good even if they are not a cougar while on the other, it seems that women who like younger men have some sort of Oedipus complex.

Courtney Cox is the latest actress to show off her cougarness in her television show Cougar Town.  It is definitely a subject that many women (and men) are interested in.  Women who know how to take care of themselves and who do not give into the thought of age as a factor to slow down their libido are the perfect Cougar candidates.  Why date George Clooney when you can date Robert Pattison?  It is a legitimate question since younger in Cougar-land is always better and if you can get it, why not flaunt it?

Of course there are the arguments that everyone should date people that are in and around their age yet it seems that many people’s ages do not reflect their inner person.  You may be 21 but act like a 50 year old and there are 60 year olds that act like 16 year old boys and girls.  As an older woman, you may not want to be with an older man simply because he makes you feel old while inside you feel like you are in your twenties.  There is definitely a psychological element that factors into becoming a cougar.

To cash in on the craze more and more Cougar websites are popping up that encourage women senior dating with younger men.  basically, young men looking for older women create a profile where the two can get together.  There are even Cougar cruises where tickets are sold to young men and older women who are looking for love.  Is there anything wrong with being a cougar?  Absolutely not.  It is rather empowering for older women.  Plus, if marrying a younger man will make a woman look like Demi Moore, I think more women will start signing up for cougar websites and cruises.

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When it comes to senior dating or if you have been married years, it is only a matter of time before your dates become a little lame.  How many times can you go to the movies or out to dinner?  Life becomes hectic with work so you may not even be taking out the time to go out with each other, which makes even these lamer dates look great because you really are not spending quality time together.  Going out for date night shows both sides that they are willing to take out a few hours from their busy schedule to be together.

Some alone time can really spice up and revamp your relationship.  The love is there, the desire is there but organizing yourselves may not be.  Take out the time for a Saturday night date or a Sunday outing.  When you are really busy sometimes it feels great to just be with the person that you love and hang out on the couch.  When you get into this routine the romance normally slips away.  Now that you have arranged your date time, here is what you need to do to make a little more exciting:

• If you have children or roommates, make sure that everyone is out of the house.  Even if you won’t be in the home, you do not want to go on an incredibly romantic date and then kill the mood as soon as you walk through the door.

• What’s the mood going to be like?  You can keep your date at home, but take it outside of the kitchen and dining room.  You may want to venture into other rooms of your home and create a specific mood.  You can cover the bedroom with flower petals, light the bathroom with candles or just cuddle by a lit fire in the living room.

• If you are going out or staying in, make sure that you get dressed up.  You may even want to buy a new outfit.  Wear something super sexy and comfortable.  Get out the push up bra and lace panties and really give your boyfriend something to be happy about.

• Remove the distractions of your life.  Hide the remote control in case a big game is on.  Put your cell phones in the glove compartment or in the drawer.  There are too many distractions that have been keeping you two apart.  So during your special time together, eliminate anything that is distracting.

Treat yourselves on date night.  The two of you certainly deserve it.  Follow these tips for spicing up your romantic senior dating life.

Senior Dating and Relationships are confusing.  There are so many issues, circumstances and a range of emotions from two people that are flying around and create utter chaos for any couple.  The simple solution is to break up.  No more fighting, no more crying, no more hard feelings, no more negative energy and no more of that person.  Did you get that last part?  Not having that person in your life is going to be a complete change.  Sometimes this is a necessary change, but other times it isn’t the person that has to change but the circumstances.

Many times we give up true love because of other displeasements.  Sometimes we are in an apparently failing relationship because we are growing apart from our partners or we are in a long distance relationship.  However, many problems can be solved using logic, third opinions and giving in to love.

If you are in a relationship where the two of you are in careers that take away a lot of your personal time, you may think that the two of you are not compatible.  This is not the case at all.  Work has taken over your life and it is time to fight back for what is right.  If you know that the person standing in front of you is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with then you need to make the appropriate steps to take that action.  You have to make the time in your schedule to be with him or her instead of assuming that this person will just wait for you becuase you love him or her.  Make the effort.

Sometimes we are unable to understand the true meaning of what our partners tell us.  If he says that he saw someone that resembles you, you may overthink the comment and make yourself believe that he is into other women, when in reality he was trying to say how much he misses you and that this person reminded him of you and why he loves you.  Sometimes talking over these comments with a friend before replying can help you to see the inner beauty of these remarks rather than unnecessarily lashing out.

If you are unmistaken that this is the person that you want to be with then you have to go out of your way to be with him or her without any regrets.  You can try and fail but you cannot think what would have happened if I….  Therefore, if you know that you love your partner give into love.  Forgive yourself and your partner so that you can put fighting aside and come to terms with how you need to change the situation you are in so that your love can prosper freely rather than stay encaged inside a cycle of misery and fighting.

If anyone has found the love of their life but that person happens to be on the other side of the world, you may find distance dating to be incredibly hard.  Sometimes people are in a long distance relationship that really should not be while there are other couples that are forced to be separated by the distance.  This is the hardest type of loving that you will experience and therefore, coined as hard loving.

The problem with long distance relationships is that there are many problems that can interfere with your relationship that would not normally affect it, if the two of you were together.  Here’s an example.  I live in New York while my boyfriend lives in Costa Rica.  Currently, there is a two hour time differece.  Now, two hours may not seem like a big difference.  However, if he gets home at 9 o’clock, then it will be 11 o’clock in N.Y. which means that it is getting late and this is just to start the conversation.  If I want to talk before heading off to work than he would have to wake up at 5 o’clock.

Timing is crucial.  Speaking really early in the morning or really late at night can be destructive for the relationship.  One party accuses the other of not paying attention and neglecting the relationship, but this accuser has to realize that it is either past their partner’s bedtime or an hour before they have had their two cups of coffee.  Now think about coast to coast relationships where there are 3 hour differences or even 8 hour differences for those whose partner’s live in Europe.

You have to carefully plan out the hours where you are able to speak and where you are able to function.  Some people say that they will wake up at 4:30 in the morning but they could become irritated, fight go to sleep and think it was a dream until they realize that there really was a fight and their partner refuse to speak to them.  You may want to avoid these situations all together.  Find a few hours in the afternoon to speak and then write emails instead of waking up early or going to bed extremely late.  These emails will also be special treats for your partner as he wakes up to go to work, or for when he returns home.

Is it time to move on?  Are you not sure how to break up with the person that you swore you loved?  There is nothing fun about breaking up especially when you know you have to, although you may not want to.  Sometimes you wake up next to the person and realize that this person just is not right for you.  You know that you do not want to have a life together so it is better to pack it in now rather than to drag it out.  This is a very important revelation because you are actually helping the both of you out.  You want to move on and you do not want to lead this person into believing that you are going to stick around by his or her side when you really are not that interested.

I’ve had some pretty great relationships over the years where there really is no reason for the two of us to breakup.  Things just seem really comfortable but that comfort also comes with boredom and later the realization that I love this person, but I’m just not in love.  This is crucial to understand in your relationship.  Many people stay together because they love the other person even though they are not actually in love.  Think of it this way, you love your cat but your not in love with him.  You can remain loving your boyfriend but you do not have to stay by him when you are not in love with him.

Therefore, breaking up becomes incredibly more difficult when you still love the person.  You can’t say I don’t trust you anymore because you cheated on me.  You can’t say that you don’t spend enough time together and you definitely can’t truthfully say that you don’t love him anymore, so how do you break up?  The best thing to say is that you still love him but that you do not feel the same.  You can say that you are moving in two different directions and although you love him you want different things.

Be as honest as you can possibly be but be firm about it.  You do not want to leave a chance that maybe you guys can get back together.  Do not continue to repeat that you still love him because this will create such an opening, but you can start out with it or lower your level of feelings and say that you still have strong feelings or just feelings and then continue on with your breakup address.  Always do breakups in person and I would recommend in a semi private place like a park.  You do not want to make a scene but you may not want to be in your home either when you do it.

When you are involved in a relationship, you know how important it is to communicate with your better half.  But sometimes a message that you think is sparkling clear gets interpreted poorly by your partner and then you end up in a huge fight.  This is because men and women communicate completely differently.  Women communicate perfectly with one another (just check our cell phone bills) and men communicate perfectly with other men, but when there is a blending of the sexes something really gets lost in the “translation”.  Below are a few tips on how men and women can communicate easier with one another.

• Anytime while talking to each other, if you need a breather, take it.  Sometimes couples have nothing better to do than to fight over petty things.  Just take a few hours to yourself and come back to speak with your partner after you have the chance to relax and clear your mind so that you can communicate better.
• Women have the tendency to keep talking and sometimes that is too much for a guy to handle.  Think of it as a bullet point list when you talk.  Go point by point but make what you say clear and right to the point.  Let your partner comment back, find a solution and then move onto the next point on your list.
• Women like to know what you are thinking and they do not want an automated response.  Speak what you feel.  It is hard for men, but even just a little what you feel will be picked up by any good woman and she will know that you are trying.
• It can helpful to talk about how to communicate with one another.  Sometimes a woman will open her mouth and the male can become offended.  Her male counterpart may want to communicate a different way when he has a problem.  Therefore, communicate to your partner what you need.  If you need him to just listen without saying a word, tell him.  If you need her to just stop asking questions and hug him, then tell her.

Communication can be easy or difficult.  If depends on how much effort you are wiling to put into your relationship.  Communication is a strong pillar in any relationship so if you want to connect with your partner on a new level, then you must start with being honest in your communication and what you need.

Anyone who has experienced a long distance relationship understands the longing to be next to that person, but in the meantime while you cannot, what else can you talk about that you have not already?  You may think that you have covered everything there is to need to know about your partner, but there are always some questions remaining.  Some of these topics may not be life changing or very interesting but you may learn a lot more or you may even become impressed by the person that you are dating at a distance.  Here are some great conversation questions to get your partner talking and jump starting your next conversation:

• What makes you good person?
• What was your best and worst job experience?
• Where have you worked in the past?
• Who is your best friend and what is he or she like?
• What is your family like?
• What is your favorite pastime with your family?
• What is your favorite holiday?
• What is your favorite color?
• What is your favorite song?
• Have you had any life altering moments?
• Have you ever been arrested?
• Have you ever protested before?
• What is your favorite way to relax?
• What do you love to do when you are alone?
• When was your first kiss?
• What is the most romantic thing you have ever done?
• Do you want children?
• Do you sleep in the nude?
• What is your favorite activity to do?
• Where in the world would you live if you could choose to go anywhere?
• What other language would you like to speak?
• What are your goals for the future?
• What would be the most perfect day for you like?
• What is your favorite food?
• What is your favorite school subject?
• What is the weirdest or craziest thing about you?
• How many times have you fallen in love?
• What was your favorite high school moment?
• What was prom/graduation like for you?
• Did you move around a lot as a child?
• Who was your best friend as a child?

It is true, some of these questions may seem a little weird but the great thing about a long distance relationship is that you really get to know someone profoundly, inside and out.  Plus any one of these conversation starters can help the two of you create excellent conversations that lay a wonderful foundation for your relationship.