Is it time to move on? Are you not sure how to break up with the person that you swore you loved? There is nothing fun about breaking up especially when you know you have to, although you may not want to. Sometimes you wake up next to the person and realize that this person just is not right for you. You know that you do not want to have a life together so it is better to pack it in now rather than to drag it out. This is a very important revelation because you are actually helping the both of you out. You want to move on and you do not want to lead this person into believing that you are going to stick around by his or her side when you really are not that interested.
I’ve had some pretty great relationships over the years where there really is no reason for the two of us to breakup. Things just seem really comfortable but that comfort also comes with boredom and later the realization that I love this person, but I’m just not in love. This is crucial to understand in your relationship. Many people stay together because they love the other person even though they are not actually in love. Think of it this way, you love your cat but your not in love with him. You can remain loving your boyfriend but you do not have to stay by him when you are not in love with him.
Therefore, breaking up becomes incredibly more difficult when you still love the person. You can’t say I don’t trust you anymore because you cheated on me. You can’t say that you don’t spend enough time together and you definitely can’t truthfully say that you don’t love him anymore, so how do you break up? The best thing to say is that you still love him but that you do not feel the same. You can say that you are moving in two different directions and although you love him you want different things.
Be as honest as you can possibly be but be firm about it. You do not want to leave a chance that maybe you guys can get back together. Do not continue to repeat that you still love him because this will create such an opening, but you can start out with it or lower your level of feelings and say that you still have strong feelings or just feelings and then continue on with your breakup address. Always do breakups in person and I would recommend in a semi private place like a park. You do not want to make a scene but you may not want to be in your home either when you do it.
