If anyone has found the love of their life but that person happens to be on the other side of the world, you may find distance dating to be incredibly hard. Sometimes people are in a long distance relationship that really should not be while there are other couples that are forced to be separated by the distance. This is the hardest type of loving that you will experience and therefore, coined as hard loving.
The problem with long distance relationships is that there are many problems that can interfere with your relationship that would not normally affect it, if the two of you were together. Here’s an example. I live in New York while my boyfriend lives in Costa Rica. Currently, there is a two hour time differece. Now, two hours may not seem like a big difference. However, if he gets home at 9 o’clock, then it will be 11 o’clock in N.Y. which means that it is getting late and this is just to start the conversation. If I want to talk before heading off to work than he would have to wake up at 5 o’clock.
Timing is crucial. Speaking really early in the morning or really late at night can be destructive for the relationship. One party accuses the other of not paying attention and neglecting the relationship, but this accuser has to realize that it is either past their partner’s bedtime or an hour before they have had their two cups of coffee. Now think about coast to coast relationships where there are 3 hour differences or even 8 hour differences for those whose partner’s live in Europe.
You have to carefully plan out the hours where you are able to speak and where you are able to function. Some people say that they will wake up at 4:30 in the morning but they could become irritated, fight go to sleep and think it was a dream until they realize that there really was a fight and their partner refuse to speak to them. You may want to avoid these situations all together. Find a few hours in the afternoon to speak and then write emails instead of waking up early or going to bed extremely late. These emails will also be special treats for your partner as he wakes up to go to work, or for when he returns home.
